First things first DON’T PANIC!
I know you’re really excited, but you’re coming down off the high of being engaged. If you were like me you had some idea it was coming, or you might have been completely surprised! Either way is fantastic, but now it’s time to get to planning, or at least thinking about the wedding.
You’ve got a million ideas going a mile a minute, but you’re not sure what fits you and your significant other. Here are some things that I would recommend you do next to try and figure out where you want to see your wedding.
First of course talk to your significant other and find out how each of you want to celebrate and how can you compromise? For example and especially being an interracial couple we can have some very different tastes. He would like to be very rural and I would like to be in the city, but we have to compromise somewhere, and make it fit both of our tastes.
Second, set up an account on The Knot ( no, this is not affiliated) and do the “taste test” as I like to call it, where it can help you figure out what kind of style you see your dream wedding going. I don’t like their search feature very much for looking for venues, but that’s a whole different topic. I did like that it could put what “theme” I wanted into words. It can be hard if you’re not having a complete theme like Harry Potter or the Roaring 20s, to put your theme into words.
Third, maybe start a Pinterest board to put things there of your vibe or theme. Not any and all things that you see on the internet that has to deal with weddings. That will not help you feel less overwhelmed! People do a lot of comparisons of weddings, try not to fall into that because just because someone else can afford to do something doesn’t mean that you can or should try to make to happen.
Finally, remember to take it one day at a time in these beginning phases. People are going to keep asking you when is the big day and it does get annoying, but they mean well. Just remind that you just got engaged and still have to pick. Also I was told I couldn’t tell people they weren’t invited to wedding on social media…so I guess don’t do that either. Have fun do a little bit every day, and take it one step at a time. Don’t think of the little details of the big day until you have the big details taken care of. You can do this. What are some good next steps that have helped you out? Let me know! Until next time,
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