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Why You Don’t Have Bookish Friends

All the time you can find posts of people saying that they don’t feel part of the bookish community, or how they don’t have friends and each time I see this I roll my eyes. Sorry, I do. I’m always left wondering what are you doing to garner friends in the bookish community. Are you expecting people to just “come up to you” on the internet and just be your friend? If so, you need to change your expectations. Also a lot of the friendships that you see happening on the internet did not happen overnight! They took months sometimes years to become what you see on the internet! It’s okay to be jealous, but it’s not okay to let it taint your view of the entire community. As a friend told me, find your tribe. They are there, but they’re just spread out a bit.

In order to have a friend, you have to be a friend. You have to be willing to put in the time to try and foster relationships and you also have to understand that not every person on the internet is meant to be your friend.  Building platonic relationships take just as much work as building romantic relationships. Are you commenting on their content and doing it in such a way that leads to more discussion or is it just a “Love your video! New subscriber!”? Also, understand that it’s easy to get distracted on the internet and that just because it seems like people are ignoring doesn’t mean they are. They might have seen the notification and just forgot to respond to it. That happens! I do it all the time and then it’s like a week later I’m responding. I’m sorry, but it’s true. Sometimes I take a peek at something, but don’t have the time to respond right away and then because the notification is gone I forget about it.

You also can’t expect to be given everything and constantly take from others without giving something in return. That’s toxic. It’s hurtful plain and simple. Also, don’t try to become friends with someone in order to build yourself up. That’s rude. You also have to respect people’s boundaries! If people say they just can’t do it right now, let them have some space to breathe. The internet only shows so much of people’s lives, and sometimes we assume we know more when we really only know a fraction.

I posted a video on my youtube channel about this, that is not nearly as blunt as this post, but I felt like the blog needed some tough love and youtube needed something a little nicer. Feel free to watch! What have you done to build relationships in the book community? What is some of the advice that you have for others? Let’s talk down in the comments! Until next time,

Keep Turning the Pages

India

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Happy October!

Happy October!!

I can’t believe that there are only 2 months left in the year!! That’s crazy and it’s officially holiday season!! I know a lot of people are getting ready for Halloween and all of their spooky reads, but I’m not going that route. First, I don’t really do spooky reads and thrillers, the second I really need to read some books that I already own.

So, that is what I will be focusing on this month. I don’t really do TBRs as you know, but I do have some books on my physical shelves and my e-reader shelves.

Some of those books include

Kingdom of Souls by Rena Barron

Crier’s War by Nina Varela

Guilded Wolves by Roshani Chokshi

Serpent and Dove  by Shelby Mahurin

Slay by Britney Morris

I know I have more books that I need to read that you can see on my Instagram page, but these are some of the ones that I really want to get to next.

I’m trying really hard to not buy any books this month and prepare for the holidays!! What are some of the books that you have planned for this month?! Are you going spooky, participating in ReadAThons, or just keeping is business as usual? Until next time,

Keep Turning the Pages

India

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Tag Tuesday | Booktube Darling Tag

It’s time to do another tag! This one included a shout out of some of my favorite booktubers! There are so many that it was hard only picking a few. I also actually got tagged in this one and that is crazy! Normally I just do them myself when I find them interesting enough to do. I’ve put the video down below and also attached it here. The prompts are also down below! If you’re a book blogger, I would love to see your answers shouting out other book bloggers, so I can follow more blogs! I think you all are amazing and we should shout each other out more often! I also put the booktubers that I shouted out, here as well. Who are some of your favorite people on the Bookternet? Let me know down below. Until next time,

Keep Turning the Pages

India

Original by April at Getting Hygge With It | https://youtu.be/eHfzJpYMGl0
Tagged by AG Macdonald | https://youtu.be/RcvNA-qXnrU

Booktubers Mentioned!
Desirai at Libri Labra | https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC2NNxEdcuTiDavwBcia-P-w
Lauren at Novel Lush | https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCv_Uj4QhCCBCTAdg3iV156g
Sam at Thoughts on Tomes | https://www.youtube.com/user/ThoughtsOnTomes
Jashana | https://www.youtube.com/user/jacheree
Brandy | https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCV9Kze5vS6w7ZhuRF27U7Ow
Steph’s Romance Book Talk | https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCNTmgDRRFoeRLSq5l97T97Q
Kathy Trithardt | https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCiN4woTQzWrciAcjIKQCzHA
Noria Reads | https://www.youtube.com/user/sitenoebulu
Marines from My Name is Marines | https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC9dWJULb5LehZYyFug6NOGg
Anisha from Sprinkled Pages | https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCILs4_qKB5oL7kyaC8GbijQ
Tin Minute Book Review | https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC-cZN1f-KVFDffkgC2W4CrA

Also hope I’m friends with Olivia | https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC44NI5Qah2UgGOEp25qLvdA

1. White rabbit– Which booktuber introduced you to the wonderful land of booktube?
2. Underrated– Which booktuber should have loads more subscribers?
3. Autowatch– Which booktuber do you drop everything to watch the minute their video goes live?
4. Twinning – Which booktuber has the most similar reading tastes to you? y
5. Boss – Which booktuber do you look up to or admire the most?
6. Bestie – Which booktuber are you genuinely friends with or which booktuber could you see yourself being friends with in real life?
7. Bookcase envy – Which booktuber has a library you’d looooove to have (either the books on their shelves or their library setup itself)?
8. MIA – Which booktuber hasn’t posted in a while that you miss immensely?
9. Newbie – Which booktube newbie are you most excited about?
10. Tag three people!

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July ReadAThon | FuckAThon!

I am trying to participate in another readathon this month. So far… I’m behind. What’s new with that though. This month I’m participating in the Fuck-A-Thon that is hosted by Noria at Noria Reads on Youtube. The Reading Challenge has prompts that basically are there to challenge the social norms. We have all month to read these books, so I need to get on that. There is also a group book as well! I have put my TBR down below and also attached Noria’s original video. I’m thinking about vlogging for this challenge, but considering I’m already behind that might be a lot haha. What do you think of this new reading challenge?! Let me know down in the comments or on my video! Until next time,

Keep turning the Pages

India

 

Noria’s Original Video | https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6lypysK_Rlw

FuckAThon Prompts:
Fuck Racism: Read a book that explores race relations
Fuck the Patriarchy: Read a book that challenges patriarchal norms and behaviour
Fuck Ageism: Read a book that centers a well-rounded older character
Fuck Heternormativity: Read a book that is queer af!
Fuck Realism: Read a fantasy book
Fuck Pollution: Read literature that talks about pollution or climate change
Fuck Abuse: Read a book that focuses on any form of abuse
Fuck Classism: Read a book that explores class stratification and the role it plays in a character’s life
Fuck Ableism: Read a book with a main character that has a disability.
Read the Group Book: Sister Outsider by Audre Lorde
*The Liveshow is on July 27th at 8PM

 

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Do I Only Read When I’m Depressed?

I haven’t been reading a lot lately, which isn’t a bad thing, but it is different. If you follow me on Instagram (if you don’t you should just click here!) you would have seen a post about me talking about feeling more happy. I have noticed that with that light feeling that I’ve had, I haven’t wanted to sit in my bed all day with the windows closed and read my books. Now I haven’t given up reading at all, I just have not sequestered myself to the pillows. Who knows it might just be because I haven’t started a book in awhile that has excited me. As I looked into why I haven’t been crushing my reading goals lately, I really had to look into myself and my own moods and see what was going on.
The conclusion in my own non scientific experiment was that I was not feeling the depression that was weighing me down in so many things. Now I want to be out and moving around and taking more pictures of books than I want to read them. I still have the desire to read them, but I don’t have the desire to sit still, so I need to use some of those audible credits it sounds like. As I was finding this out about my myself I then started to look at the book community.
A lot of the book community contains people who have titled themselves as introverts, which is fine, and that’s why they enjoy reading so much, but also why they love the book community. It gives them a place to socialize without having to socialize. Basically socializing on their own terms. There has also been a lot of discussion and talks about mental health going on in the book community as of late, which I think is fantastic, but they’re more discussions of people saying that they have a mental health issue and bringing light to that. Other than a chemical imbalance that some people face with their mental health, I want to explore what other reasons why a lot of book people feel down. For me, it was a birth control that spun my mental health all out of wack. If I was titling myself I would call myself an extroverted introvert. I can make conversation with anyone at any time and it doesn’t bother me at all, but I also need that space to be away from people some time.
I also wanted to explore the thought of reading for escapism. I know that I have said that in videos and looking back at that, I’m not even sure if that’s what I really meant to say. I always meant reading for escapism in terms of escaping to some place new, and now I think the new word I was trying to come up with is exploring. I feel like I read to explore new places, but not necessarily to escape from the place I’m at. I love where I’m at in life even with all of the mixed feelings and emotions, but it took time to get there. Sometimes I fear for the book community and the fact that too many people are escaping from life and not dealing with life, but everyone has their journey to get to where they need to be.
So my questions starts to become, do I only read when I’m depressed and how do I read in the same volume when I’m happy?  Or do I need to change my expectations of myself and not put reading pressure on myself. These are some of the questions that I have and I don’t know any of the answers. I know that I need to take it a day at a time and still continue to read what I enjoy and have fun with it. Do you find your mood determines your reading? Until next time,
Keep turning the Pages
India