I haven’t been reading a lot lately, which isn’t a bad thing, but it is different. If you follow me on Instagram (if you don’t you should just click here!) you would have seen a post about me talking about feeling more happy. I have noticed that with that light feeling that I’ve had, I haven’t wanted to sit in my bed all day with the windows closed and read my books. Now I haven’t given up reading at all, I just have not sequestered myself to the pillows. Who knows it might just be because I haven’t started a book in awhile that has excited me. As I looked into why I haven’t been crushing my reading goals lately, I really had to look into myself and my own moods and see what was going on.
The conclusion in my own non scientific experiment was that I was not feeling the depression that was weighing me down in so many things. Now I want to be out and moving around and taking more pictures of books than I want to read them. I still have the desire to read them, but I don’t have the desire to sit still, so I need to use some of those audible credits it sounds like. As I was finding this out about my myself I then started to look at the book community.
A lot of the book community contains people who have titled themselves as introverts, which is fine, and that’s why they enjoy reading so much, but also why they love the book community. It gives them a place to socialize without having to socialize. Basically socializing on their own terms. There has also been a lot of discussion and talks about mental health going on in the book community as of late, which I think is fantastic, but they’re more discussions of people saying that they have a mental health issue and bringing light to that. Other than a chemical imbalance that some people face with their mental health, I want to explore what other reasons why a lot of book people feel down. For me, it was a birth control that spun my mental health all out of wack. If I was titling myself I would call myself an extroverted introvert. I can make conversation with anyone at any time and it doesn’t bother me at all, but I also need that space to be away from people some time.
I also wanted to explore the thought of reading for escapism. I know that I have said that in videos and looking back at that, I’m not even sure if that’s what I really meant to say. I always meant reading for escapism in terms of escaping to some place new, and now I think the new word I was trying to come up with is exploring. I feel like I read to explore new places, but not necessarily to escape from the place I’m at. I love where I’m at in life even with all of the mixed feelings and emotions, but it took time to get there. Sometimes I fear for the book community and the fact that too many people are escaping from life and not dealing with life, but everyone has their journey to get to where they need to be.
So my questions starts to become, do I only read when I’m depressed and how do I read in the same volume when I’m happy? Or do I need to change my expectations of myself and not put reading pressure on myself. These are some of the questions that I have and I don’t know any of the answers. I know that I need to take it a day at a time and still continue to read what I enjoy and have fun with it. Do you find your mood determines your reading? Until next time,
Now this is not going to be a how to budget for your wedding. There are plenty of resources and I found this one to be helpful, along with some of her other learning tools for event planning. I say i’m not going to help you budget because I don’t know how. I don’t even have a budget. Now that’s not to say that I have all the money because that is definitely not the case. Also first figure it out is the wedding something you and your fiancé are going to split, are you going to traditional of brides family pays for the wedding, or are both families going to help. Figure out where you’re getting this money from and don’t be afraid to ask for help, like I was.
I did do a lot of research on what was average in my area and then I decided what prices were absolutely ridiculous for me. For example to me a venue of $10,000 that also does not include food, alcohol, or a wedding planner sounded ridiculous to me. So, you’re saying I also have to pay for catering and someone to plan my wedding for me, or keep things moving on the day of my wedding. I did not want to do that. I also had to have a long conversation with my fiancé about how we wanted to do alcohol because that can be a large chunk of whatever “budget” you set for yourself. Deciding on whether or not you want to have an open bar, a cash bar, an open bar for a certain amount of time and then a cash bar, or maybe you just want to do beer and wine. Then is your venue providing it or do you have to provide all of the alcohol for your wedding.
Some people have that budget and that is good for them. There were some things I was not willing to go cheap on though and that was my photographer. I wanted all of my pictures to be fabulous because these are memories and moments that you can’t get back, but want to see them forever.
I know nothing about flowers…like nothing… when he gets me flowers, I’m just like those are pretty…. but that’s it. So I have been requesting quotes from different shops to try and figure out what I think isn’t ridiculous. I mean come on! $200 for a bouquet that’s not lasting for ever?!?! That’s crazy to me. Then you have to add on delivery feet and set up fee, which quickly adds up to $500 for just that. Next thing you know you spent $2000 on something that isn’t lasting forever. Now I know some people have started to go to wood flowers or these super detailed styrofoam flowers, and I’m highly considering it for decorations and center pieces.
Which brings me to my next thing, DIY. DIY is only a good option if you are crafty, or you have a large amount of the craft supplies already. If you’re going to spend $300 on a machine, before getting the supplies you’re already putting yourself in hole. There are so many Etsy shops and of course Amazon, that can get you to those personalized gifts you really want. Also don’t take on too many DIY projects if things like that don’t make you happy. There can be so many projects, but overdoing them will put a lot of stress on you during this joyous time.
If something seems outrageously priced, do your research and see what the average is. If it’s something that you don’t need then hold off getting it. If it’s something you really, really want pay for the things that you need to pay for first and then get the things you want. Just remember going into debt to impress your friends and family doesn’t make your big day anymore special! Everything is going to turn out beautifully and don’t sweat the small stuff! Let me know how you budgeted for your beautiful day, so I can have some help! Until next time,
It’s time for probably my final Owlcrate Subscription box unboxing! I do have the Caraval speciality box to share with you all as well, but now it’s time for #EpicAdventure! This box was filled with so many useful and practical items, that I was sad this was going to be my last one. I also have a full unboxing up on my channel already as well, which is linked down below! Let get into these items! More picture will be posted on Instagram through out the week, so make sure to look out for them!
We got a vinyl sticker inspired by Howl’s Moving Castle, written by Diana Wynne, and designed by Naomi Lord
A soft purple sleep mask inspired by A Court of Mist and Fury by Sarah J Maas and designed by Bookworm Boutique
A passport wallet, which has a quote from The Hobbit on it and that is designed by Kit Cronk Studio
A clear water bottle inspired by Stardust by Neil Gaiman and designed by KDP Letters
There was a pillow case inspired by A Darker Shade of Magic and Lila Bard and designed by Stella Bookish Art
Finally the book was We Hunt The Flame by Hafsah Faizal, which of course was a signed edition with an exclusive cover and an enamel pin to go with it designed by IceyDesigns. This book is set in ancient Arabia and features everything that you could possibly want in a fantasy. Magic, assassins, hunters, and of course some romance. This is also a debut novel for Faizal, which makes it even more amazing and I can’t wait to read it.
What did you think of this box? I loved all of the useful items in the box and can’t wait to use them! Let me know down in the comments! Until next time,
Is unbox an actual word? I genuinely am not sure, but I do know that I did not get the red squiggly line underneath it, so we’re going to go with it. On the internet we always see influencers unboxing things that they’ve either received or have a deal on and you’re always left wondering do they actually use those items once they’re done with their campaign?
Well I’m not as fortunate as those influencers and no one is paying me to post (yet), so that leaves me using the items that I buy. Trust me, I know some of the items I get are expensive! My bank account knows it too and because of that I make sure that I get some use out of the bags that I love to talk about on this website.
Today though I’m going to talk about two bags that I brought on vacation with me! The Muzmm backpack that I unboxed here, and the Gatta Lola Noir that I unboxed here! I brought both of these on my recent vacation with my fiancé and we definitely got some good use out of them.
Let’s start with my Gatta bag. Now if you follow me on social media then you know I love my Christie Tan. It is definitely a favorite of mine and I use it a lot. I regret not bringing it on vacation with me, but then I wouldn’t have really tried out this bag. I shoot with the Olympus OMD EM1 Mark II and I love it. Even my fiancé loves it because of the quick shutter button when he’s being my personal paparazzi, but we’re not here to talk about cameras. We’re here to talk about my experience with this bag. So this camera is no small thing and this bag holds it phenomenally. I put it in lens first and the body of the camera still has some room to spare up top. There’s a divider in there as well, which helps to separate my other thing like chapstick, lipstick, and my wallet from my camera.
I don’t like that there aren’t any places for memory cards or small pockets so that nothing gets lost. That is a big downfall for me. Especially without a zipper or a strong closing on the bag, once it turns over on its side by accident everything comes falling out. It is super adorable, but the overall organization and security of the bag leaves a lot fo be determined.
Now on to this three in one backpack. We are using it a lot! It’s great for these beach adventures and taking everything around the ship. We have been able to keep towels, tripods, and small things in it with ease. It does have a laptop sleeve in it and a small inside pocket. It also has a front pocket. Other than that the bag is basically a duffle bag, so to better organize it I like to put some smaller things into carry all pouches and then put them in the bag. The two small pockets through out the bag though have been super helpful. It fits two beach towels in there with ease and room to spare. It also has a water bottle pocket on the side that has been helping to keep us hydrated in all of this warm weather. I honestly wish that I had brought both backpacks because I got the 20L and the 30L styles, but I have a hard time giving up my beach bag that I bring up every trip. I mean it has my name on it…and elephants… I can’t give that up.
For any adventure or beach vacation or trip, I would definitely recommend the backpack. It’s easier to add smaller items into separate bags and then put it in the bag, or to dump them into the front pocket. As far as bags that I’ve purchased go, this one is probably the most affordable one I’ve bought and you can get 20% off using the link here. It comes in a variety of colors and styles that will fit your personality. I tried to pick something that would look normal for both me and for Eric to carry. I would definitely recommend this bag.
Are there any bags that you think I should look into? Let me know down below! Until next time,
I know you’re really excited, but you’re coming down off the high of being engaged. If you were like me you had some idea it was coming, or you might have been completely surprised! Either way is fantastic, but now it’s time to get to planning, or at least thinking about the wedding.
You’ve got a million ideas going a mile a minute, but you’re not sure what fits you and your significant other. Here are some things that I would recommend you do next to try and figure out where you want to see your wedding.
First of course talk to your significant other and find out how each of you want to celebrate and how can you compromise? For example and especially being an interracial couple we can have some very different tastes. He would like to be very rural and I would like to be in the city, but we have to compromise somewhere, and make it fit both of our tastes.
Second, set up an account on The Knot ( no, this is not affiliated) and do the “taste test” as I like to call it, where it can help you figure out what kind of style you see your dream wedding going. I don’t like their search feature very much for looking for venues, but that’s a whole different topic. I did like that it could put what “theme” I wanted into words. It can be hard if you’re not having a complete theme like Harry Potter or the Roaring 20s, to put your theme into words.
Third, maybe start a Pinterest board to put things there of your vibe or theme. Not any and all things that you see on the internet that has to deal with weddings. That will not help you feel less overwhelmed! People do a lot of comparisons of weddings, try not to fall into that because just because someone else can afford to do something doesn’t mean that you can or should try to make to happen.
Finally, remember to take it one day at a time in these beginning phases. People are going to keep asking you when is the big day and it does get annoying, but they mean well. Just remind that you just got engaged and still have to pick. Also I was told I couldn’t tell people they weren’t invited to wedding on social media…so I guess don’t do that either. Have fun do a little bit every day, and take it one step at a time. Don’t think of the little details of the big day until you have the big details taken care of. You can do this. What are some good next steps that have helped you out? Let me know! Until next time,